What do a pre-school child (4 to 5 years of age) and a super senior have in common?
There is a good possibility…it’s a Brain to Mouth “Filter” Disorder (BMFD). In one… it has yet to be installed and… in the other… it could be worn out.
When you were four years old you probably had a tendency to repeat things that you had heard that may not have been appropriate…or innocently expressed how you felt without any consideration of others. If you are in your super senior years…you may have a tendency to verbalize what others would consider inappropriate…but you don’t care… “you say what you mean…and mean what you say”.
Somewhere in between these ages most people develop a “filter” within themselves… that prompts them to ask “Is this an appropriate thing to say”? Now of course…we all know some people that have traveled through life without any “filter” at all…which could be more disturbing that we care to explore.
As one ages the “filter” that processes the intake of information prior to responding becomes less effective and results in quicker, honest, and sometimes hostile and more direct responses.
Example: (Joe at the age of 40 having a conversation with his 40 year old friend Fred).
JOE: “Fred what do you think of the political structure in today’s society”?
FRED: “I believe that we have a good check and balance system…etc…”
JOE: “That’s very insightful…I have never viewed it from that prospective”.
Joe 40 years later asking the same question… to a “forty” year old friend Tom.
JOE: “Tom what do you think of the political structure in today’s society”?
TOM: “I believe that we have a good check and balance system…etc…”
JOE: “You stupid SOB…I can’t believe that anyone could be so damn stupid to think that way”!
…I believe that you get the point.
The real question is: Has Joe gained more knowledge to change his point of view or has aging just brought on a more aggressive behavior? We could continue with more questions…but the complexity of the answer is never simple and would need to be analyzed on an individual bases.
I recall a certain individual that I meet in college…and after several conversations…I thought that he was the stupidest individual that I had ever met (please do not confuse intelligence with education). By circumstances I had the opportunity to meet him again 40 years later in a business environment…and in spite of his education and life experiences…in my opinion he is still the stupidest individual that I have ever met. Aging does not always bring wisdom with it…sometimes it’s just a process of getting older.
Have you checked your “filter” lately? Check it for tolerance and understanding…but never let it filter out truth and honesty.
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